Taking care of someone that has Vascular Dementia is a heartbreaking thing to do. To watch a once strong person transform into a person that is confused, has no short term memory and sees things is awful.
Take my mom for instance, she has had several “silent” strokes and that is causing her Vascular Dementia. She can take her medicine and 5 minutes later, sometimes as short as 2 minutes, she will be wanting to take her medicine again, she has forgotten that quickly that she has already taken it.
For a while her dementia was causing her to see witches in her bedroom, which in turn was causing many sleepless nights and a lot of anxiety for her. I wrote a poem about it on my old blog at The Witch In The Corner, which pretty much describes what she was going through at the time.
Now, for some reason, the witch has turned into a Princess. This in and of itself is not a bad thing, shes not scared of the Princess but now she worries about her. At night she worries if shes (the princess) gonna sleep and where, during the day she worries about the Princess eating and what she’s doing, if she’s alright, so on and so forth. Mom won’t get into bed until she’s satisfied the Princess is taken care of, she even gets out of bed once I get her in it if she isn’t convinced that the Princess is well taken care of.
As I said earlier, it’s better a Princess that a Witch but the Princess comes with a whole new set of problems and worries, on my part. I have to worry that mom is getting enough sleep and is resting comfortably, if she’s staying in bed after I get in bed and will she stay in bed? Once again there are sleepless nights and worry filled days.
I have come to the conclusion that, as far as the Princess is concerned, to just go along with mommy and try to ease her mind that everything is OK with the Princess. That she is fed and is comfortable. It’s all that I know to do …
Thanks for readin’.
Posted on May 2, 2014